There are many idioms which illustrate the point that one ought not talk too much. For example, we all know "silence is golden." You may even be familiar with "When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise." The fact is, there are a lot of people in the world who don't mind silence and even prefer it to the ramblings of any one person's thought processes.
Remind yourself: you are not that special and unique to need a running monologue. No one wants to hear it. If you have something useful to add, then by all means speak up, but if you're simply stating the obvious or random plans that don't affect the poor listeners around you, or simply describing what's around, you could try a useful tactic known as STFU. This is where you close your mouth, and let your brain be your brain and not someone else's. You are not responsible to fill all silences and no one expects you to.
I remember when I was attempting to help some homeless people gathered around a McDonalds, I was taking a look around and trying to decide what I could do to help. Many of them were gabbing about random stuff like food, drugs, and gossip about each other. One guy, however, sat there silently. I thought, "now here's a wise man who has simply run on some hard times." But then, he opened his mouth and spoke. Good feeling gone. He was the same as the rest.
When you master STFU, it is amazing how much more people begin to respect you. The wise, silent type is something everyone is familiar with along with the rambling idiot. By simply being quiet, people start to associate wisdom with you rather than psychosis. You can still be fun and witty, but simply taper it to the truly funny and the truly witty while leaving all other random comments in the trash heap that is your head. When no one knows your head is a mess, they simply assume it is not and focus more on the trash inside their own heads. If you don't talk, people will fill the silence with their own thoughts which more often than not are their own personal concerns rather than any kind of judgements on you. By speaking, you guarantee they'll judge you instead. People are selfish but hate being around selfish people. So the longer we can hide that we only care for ourselves, the more people will like us. And nothing says selflessness like permitting silence and keeping your trap shut.
So remember, the next time you think you ought to detail your every thought process and plans for the day, just STFU and let the silence be golden. When your driveling mouth doesn't drive people away, whole worlds of opportunities will open up to you. Try STFU today!
